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22 COURIER-POST. Camden. N.J., Monday, Sept 30, 1974 Dear Abby An Exhibitionist Is Cured Those who sincerely wish to overcome their problem have an excellent chance of being helped, either by psychotherapy or conditioned reflex therapy. I urge those who are still fighting this battle to seek out such help. DEAR ABBY: "Stumped Divorcee" didn't know how to say no" to a man.

She said. "If I had never been married. I could say I was saving myself for marriage, but a divorcee can't say I have a solution for her: I was a divorcee for ten years. I never said "no" to a man because I didn't want him to think I was a prude. And I never said "yes" because I didn't want him to think I was a tramp.

So I always said "maybe." It worked like a charm. I had so many proposals I couldn't count them. I am now married to the greatest guy in the world. THE MAYBE GIRL DEAR MAYBE: I can only assume that yonr "maybe" turned into a "yes." What was the time schedule on that? Design for People Making Your Own Cushioned Sofa BY EMILY MALINO In the good old days when oranges were shipped in sturdy wooden crates, folks used them to furnish their first parlor, turning them into coffee or end tables or even occasional seats with a floppy pillow atop each crate. Today's oranges come in plastic bags and a well-made orange crate probably costs as much as a coffee table, but there are still ways to make simple, inexpensive furniture for any room.

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The open space behind the long piece is a handy place for storing extra pillows and bedding when the box becomes a bed for the overnight guest. love leaving her the car with a full tank of gas. YM tt. Pat Off All rifi mmf A) 17 br lot tnw 4fe aam DEAR ABBY: I am a woman who is very much in love with a man who says he loves me. but I can't seem to hang on to him.

He disappears for weeks at a time and I don't know how to locate him. When he is gone I just about go crazy. He is gone now. I went to a spiritual person who does healing, reads palms, and communicates with people who are far away. She says she can help me get my man back for good, but first I have to sign up for a program which costs $50 for the first session, and $10 every two weeks after that.

I don't have a lot of money, but I would sure pay that much aaaa ak. ajm ak. a KNITS T- to get my man back. Should I signup: LOUISIANA DEAR LA: Save your money and report that "spiritual person" to the Better Business Bureau and the Bunco Division of your local police department. If your man loves you.

you won't need a third party to get him back. He'll COME back. Everyone has a problem. What's vours? For a personal reply, write to ABBY: Box No. 69700.Los Angeles.

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The oak is finished with a clear lacquer in its own elegant, pale color; two inches of the inner 2-by-4 frame are painted black and allowed to show at the base, to protect the oak frame from toes and to emphasize the horizonial line of the box. THE COLORS are muted and natural; the pair of oak shutters are finished in the same lacquer as the box and I found a At Wit's End DOUBLE Values to $5.98 yd. 'POLYESTER mW 60 Wide One Yard and V2 yd. and over Vpt IjT. Over itflsi AvhX By ABIGAIL VAN BUREN DEAR ABBY: I read the letter from Scared," the 19-year-old girl who just found out that her steady boyfriend had been arrested several times for indecent exposure.

Thank you for your compassionate and understanding attitude. You said. "It's an illness. He needs therapy." Abby. you are so right.

I am a 28-year-old man who was cursed with that illness for about 15 years. It's called "exhibitionism." And it's as difficult to control as alcoho-ism. In plain language, it's an uncontrollable urge to expose oneself. I was normal in all other respects and couldn't understand this fierce urge I seemed powerless to control. I won't go into the humiliation, problems with the law and tremendous guilt feelings I suffered until I finally found a psychologist who knew how to treat this illness.

He used the "conditioning" technique, and it cured I have been married for five years to a woman who stood by me through the worst. She gave me the courage to seek professional help, and the strength to stick with the treatment. Had it not been for her, I could not be signing EX-EXHIBITIONIST P.S. Abby. because I trust you, and know that you will not betray that trust.

I am signing my real name and address. If you print my letter, please don't divulge my name or location. Mlthough I am cured, and. God willing, will never regress, I am still ashamed of my past. DEAR EX: Because I feel that an unenlightened society has misunderstood this problem for years I shall print your letter.

Perhaps in an effort not to seem self-serving, you failed to mention an important fact: Exhibitionists are usually gentle, nonviolent people, and the chances of their attacking anyone are very, very remote. But in fairness to society, exhibitionists cannot be allowed to go about traumatizing children and shocking adults. Some hold theories that the aversion to ironing is genetic This would seem to be the case as both my sister and I iron only during the months when oysters are in season off the coast of Thailand. Our phone conversations run something like this: "Joe needs a shirt." "You going to iron one?" "No. make one." "When are you going to "During the next space launch, providing the month has an in it." I'll tell you something, world.

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